Self-Harm: What It Is & Alternatives To It

 Hey there, baddies! Today we're discussing a somewhat sensitive topic: self-harm. Self-harm is the act of injuring oneself. Self-harm comes in many forms such as:

- biting

- scratching

- pulling hair out

- picking skin

- cutting 

- burning

- punching yourself

- over-exercising

- binge-eating

- starving

- substance abuse 

All these are forms of self-harm. These are all valid, though they should obviously not be done. 

So, now that we know what self-harm is, how do we know if someone does it? For starters, if you notice burns, bruises, or cuts on their skin, there is definitely something wrong happening. Also, if you notice someone constantly covered up, even in extremely hot weather, that is another sign. Hair loss is another sign of self-harm or stress in general. Mentions of suicide or self-loathing, even as a joke, is another cause for concern. Extreme weight loss or weight gain can also be a sign. Signs of low self-esteem and depression in general are other concerning things. If you notice a loved one or even a stranger having many of these signs, try to help them in some way while also making them feel safe. There is a reason people do these things, and a reason they keep it a secret. 

Now, what are some alternatives to self-harm? There are many healthy coping mechanisms, and while they may not be exactly like self-harming, I'm sure there's something that can help in the slightest. Alternatives to self-harm can be:

- journaling

- ripping up paper

- burning paper

- playing with fidget toys or slime

- drawing lines quickly on paper

- snapping a rubber band against your wrist (this is my favorite alternative, because it simulates the pain while not leaving a mark or hurting for a long time)

- drawing

- holding ice cubes

- taking a cold shower

- going for a walk

- talking to someone, whether it be venting or simple talk

- breathing exercises 

- drawing lines on your skin with red paint or ink

- screaming into a pillow

- and many more

These are much safer and healthier coping mechanisms compared to self-harm. If you have no one to turn to and are seriously considering suicide or self-harm, text the crisis hotline for your country. 

US: 911 (emergency number) 988 (crisis hotline)

UK: 999 or 112 (emergency number)

You can find the crisis hotline for your country online. 

I hope everyone who read this entry is doing well. It was very hard for me to write this because I'm still struggling with self-harm, but I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy, so if I can't help myself, I'll try to help others at the very least. Have a blessed day, baddies!